A Buddhist proverb says “holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal, with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
It’s a sentiment that counsellor Cindy Blekaitis agrees with. She says when you’re not forgiving people who have wronged you, it only breeds anger and resentment. She goes on to say that resentment ties you to that person, and every move they make has an impact on you.
“In the grand scheme, it only hurts us” says Mrs. Blekaitis.
When you are able to forgive, it gets the anger out, and makes your more emotionally aware. Mrs. Blekaitis says you’ll also feel the physical effects of forgiven, as it reduces our stress and tension.
She adds, it also helps us be in a better position to forgive our own selves in the future.